If you have cable, or if you’ve been keeping up with the bra blog community, you know that Lifetime recently premiered a new show called Double Divas, a show about a lingerie shop – Livi Rae – based in Atlanta, Georgia. The premise of the show is listed as the following on Lifetime’s site: “Lifetime docuseries that offers an eye-opening peek into the world of intimate apparel”
While my husband and I don’t have anything beyond basic cable (there is far too much greatness to watch on Netflix for a 1/10 of the cost of cable), we do have the internet! If you want to watch the show, the first two episodes are currently on http://www.mylifetime.com and new episodes are aired on Thursday nights at 10pm.
I happened to watch the first two episodes on Tuesday and today and wrote down my thoughts as I watched the show. I think the best I can say is that I am disappointed in the show, and at worst, I can say that I am purely horrified.
I’ve always tried to be as body positive as I can – and this is something that is resonated across the bra blogosphere as well. Snark is not okay. And we’ve all had those times when we’ve been made to feel like there is something wrong with our bodies because we’re bigger here than you are there, etc…So, I think my biggest issue with this show is the tone.
The first episode focuses on the women creating a bra for Norma Stitz….notoriously known for “having the biggest tits”. It’s so offensive I even gagged when I typed that. Personal preference, but I’ve never been a fan of the word tits in reference to breasts, or boobs if you will. Anyways, at one point in the show, Molly says “Norma was enormous!”. Yes, Norma has large breasts. But does that kind of tone and language encourage women? While Norma may have the largest “documented”, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t hundreds of other women around the world who have breasts that are close to the same size. If they already feel uncomfortable with the size of their breasts, how are women on national television who are supposed to be providing a different look into the lingerie world exclaiming “ENORMOUS!” about your boobs going to make you feel any better? It’s really no wonder that women with larger breasts try to hide their bodies and continue to suffer in silence. It’s the tone and the language that does it all. In my book, NOT OKAY. Personally, I’d want to slap someone in the face if the first thing they uttered upon seeing my breasts was “OMG YOUR BOOBS ARE ENORMOUS!!” Yes, I’ve heard this before. No, I didn’t resort to slapping…..yet.
Beyond this, it just seems as though the women in the shop are…..well…..shallow. Now, I won’t say that Molly and Cynthia are too terrible – though they do need a good few whacks on the wrists for exclaiming “OH WOW!” when they see their customer’s sizes, but Loren? Wow. I just mean, wow. Besides the fact that Loren is only there to be sexy “She’s not a great bra fitter, but she can sell sexy.”, it seems like this young girl has only one perspective about what is beautiful and what is not.
Another issue I have with the show is the overall aesthetic and layout of the shop. I know that the whole concept of the shop is based on quirkiness and eccentric flair. BUT as most women in the states have only ever seen Victoria’s Secret or Lane Bryant (or even Wal-Mart), this shop is….over the top. In some instances, the shop appears to be completely unorganized and lacking focus, while also giving off a little bit of a trashy vibe. As someone who has been into speciality lingerie shops, do I want women to think that LiviRae is the example of lingerie shops that aren’t mainstream? Good lord no. When I see Loren whipping one of the male customers that comes in to buy for his wife (2nd episode) I have to stop and think….. Is this a porn store or a lingerie shop? There’s a time and a place for each of those things. The premise of the show is to give viewers a different perspective about lingerie that isn’t angel based and all about push up bras and nothing above a DD cup. So why would we want to scare women away from specialty shops? It just seems like this show could really be doing more harm than good for American women. What is the message that is coming across? “Lingerie stores other than VS or LB or wherever else look like porn stores, and you’ll be talked to like it’s amazing that your size even exists!” Yikes!
Unfortunately, lingerie, sex, etc., are all still (WHY?!) taboo topics in America….and to me, it’s evident that while the premise of the show is good – they’ve really missed the mark here…The show isn’t so much about bra fitting as is, but more about….I don’t even know. The focus is kind of all over the place. I can at least hope that as the season progresses, that bra fitting will be highlighted more as the focus.
If you can get past the shtick, terrible body snark, and Loren’s 80’s pop queen thing she has going on, there are some gems that do exist in the show.
- Molly talks about the fact that differences in breast size ARE common. I think that this is really great for women at home because it can let them know that, no, you’re not a freak if one breast is a C cup and the other is a D or any other combination thereof.
- They use the swoop and scoop! Although….when I saw this (2nd episode), I’m not 100% convinced that all side boob got pulled into the cup. But it is publicly introducing women to a different way to put your bra on. Some explanation would have been nice of why this is necessary.
- Once Molly and Cynthia stop over acting, you can really tell that it’s important to them that women get the right fitting bra.
I feel like this show is one step above Jersey Shore with a lingerie twist….and I don’t mean that with regard to spray tan, but merely in the quality of the program itself. I’m disappointed that Lifetime has a great opportunity to reach out to women and really educate them about bras, sizing, and body love…..and instead, this is what they are broadcasting. I can only hope that the show “gets better” over time…and maybe I’m being negative, but I doubt it will happen.
Random Highlights from my Notes (direct quotes)
- “skinny bitch” ?!
- So…so…awkward. I would be so pissed if another woman acted like Loren is towards my husband, if he ever decides to go lingerie shopping for me
- Love Molly’s pink sequin dress! Want!
- WHAT IS THAT TRUCK?! WHY DOES THAT TRUCK EVEN EXIST?!
- I appreciate the fact that Cynthia tried to make a bra for Norma, but it still does not fit. Does she really think it’s that comfortable?!
- talk about differences in breast sizes and it being common….yay! Except for the “Oh wow”…..awful….and then she tries to comfort the poor woman. Why is this all over the place?
- Really? “You’re either beautiful or you’re smart” ????? WHY?!